Let's face it, 99% of the time it's the man who must approach the woman and open up an interaction - not all the time, but most of the time by far.
So why is this$%: Are women the frustrating creatures who really have the power to pick and choose$%: The answer (I'll think you'll be pleased to hear) is no.
Look at it this way, biologically speaking if a man has sex with a woman there are no costs involved - just the genetic benefit of possibly impregnating a female and spreading his DNA.
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Now let's get a handle on it from the female perspective. Sex can mean 9 months of pregnancy (and so vulnerability) plus another 18 years of taking care of the offspring.
Secondly, if a woman approaches a man she is putting herself in danger - physical and sexual - due to the ability of the male to overpower her. Another threat to her survival.
Don't get me wrong, this isn't something they're consciously aware of, but they are powerfully driven by the instinct to survive.
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At the genetic level, for a female to approach a male she is putting her safety/survival in danger and has no way of judging wether she will be left alone to raise and take care of the potential sprog.
Understand this, it's not your fault! The reason that women don't (or infrequently) approach you is due to the laws of nature, etched into the limbic brain. Not because you're a "loser" or "ugly". It's a costs/benefits ratio - and the potential costs for a female are awesome when compared to the absence of costs for a male.
Of course, there are other factors at work, but i'll discuss those another time...
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